Does my boyfriend have OCPD?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive-c



Here is some info from that website, and my explanation of things... I really think he needs



to be diagnosed!!!



The DSM-IV-TR, a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders, defines that for a



patient to be diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, they must exhibit at



least four of the following traits:



1) Preoccupation with details, rules, lists, order, organization, bodily functions, or



schedules to the extent that the major point of the activity is lost

2) Showing perfectionism that interferes with task completion (e.g., is unable to complete a



project because his or her own overly strict standards are not met)

3)Excessive devotion to work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities and



friendships (not accounted for by obvious economic necessity)

4)Being overconscientious, scrupulous, and inflexible about matters of morality, ethics, or



values (not accounted for by cultural or religious identification)

5)Inability to discard worn-out or worthless objects even when they have no sentimental



value

6)Reluctance to delegate tasks or to work with others unless they submit to exactly his or



her way of doing things

7)Adopting a miserly spending style toward both self and others; money is viewed as



something to be hoarded for future catastrophes

8)Showing rigidity and stubbornness

9)Urge to perfect every little thing



It is important to note that while a person may exhibit any or all of the characteristics of



a personality disorder, it is not diagnosed as a disorder unless the person has trouble



leading a normal life due to these issues.



As for my boyfriend, and the things that make me think he has OCPD, numbers coinciding with



the numbers above for the traits......



1 Preoccupation... If you try to change any chain of events that he has scheduled for



himself... durring any part of the day, or are going somewhere with him, he will start a



fight being pushy about your timing, or be stubborn to changes others want to make in the



schedule ,even if it%26039;s me staying up an extra 10 minutes to spend time with him! It effects



his own personal schedule that he makes for himself down to the minute. He would rather



fight for an hour instead of enjoying the extra 10 minutes! As for rules, they have to be



his. As for details, he explained to me the way he likes to salt his food at least 3 times,



before I had to tell him I don%26039;t care how you salt your food, it%26039;s your food, I just don%26039;t



want to hear about it. I%26039;ve heard it enough! He hates it when he can%26039;t seem to poop at the



same time every day! He will complain about it to me while he%26039;s on the toilet, every time it



happens! Well, there are lots of examples for 1, but I don%26039;t need to list them all. He just



looses the point of any thing! How can we go out to have a good time when he starts bitching



at me at half day to get all the things done around the house? Then he decides to complain



that I%26039;m not moving, or getting around fast enough when we%26039;re about to go out. He rather



argue about it, than be patient for me to finish getting around. I%26039;ve even tried being



totally on time, even early with my getting around, and he can%26039;t seem to stop himself! I



thought the point to going out together was to enjoy eachother, not put eachother in a bad



mood from unnecessary complaining!



2 Perfectionism... He won%26039;t finish things he doesn%26039;t think he can meet his own standards



on! Ex... putting away freezer items, organizing cabinets, fixing the waterfall he broke,



the IQ test he quit on, tuning his own drums... He has me do those things he can%26039;t meet his



own standards on because he thinks I can!



3 Excessive devotion to work.... He believes that all things you need to get done around



the house need to be done before you can go have fun with friends, or even hang out with



your sister! As far as I%26039;m concerned, things around the house will be there tomorrow! Today,



if the opportunity presents itself, you should be able to LIVE, and stop the doing, so that



you can actually take advantage of this opportunity you have today which won%26039;t be there



tomorrow! This is particularly a problem when there are several days to finish things around



the house, but today, your sister asked you to come over, and have a game night with the



kids! Tate thinks I need to come home %26amp; finish everything when I have NEVER had a game night



with my sister %26amp; the kids! He might even be at home doing nothing, but he still thinks you



need to be there finishing %26quot;your%26quot; work around the house!



4 Being overconscientious... He has a tendancy to be overbearing in his own opinions of



whether something is right or wrong. What he thinks is right, is usually NOT right, but yet



he seems to think so, calls them morals, and values, and tries to force me to HIS way only,



even if it%26039;s me who is right! He still seems to validate everything to himself even if his



reasoning makes no sense at all! Tate is so inflexible that it%26039;s painful to me, because it%26039;s



so unfair of him! You know of all of his double standards! None of it really makes sense at



all!



5 Inability to discard.... He shows no visable sign of this at all.



6 Reluctance.... Well, when he delegates tasks to others, he gets specific, and if he does



not, he%26039;s always angry that you didn%26039;t meet his standards, or if you do not bend over



backwards to do it his way, he gets angry. Ex... Even though I was supposed to get to design



all the landscaping, and it was supposed to be my thing, He couldn%26039;t let me just do it. He



decided he needed to be in control of what went into the landscaping, how it was planted,



and arranged. I thought this was supposed to be mine! I didn%26039;t get to plant alot of my



favorite things in my own yard because he didn%26039;t like them!!!!! BTW, every party that we



have had has been a struggle because I used to plan all the parties in my house, but after I



moved in with the boyfriend... Every time we are going to have a party, even if I am



supposed to be planning it, somehow, he decides he needs to take over the whole thing! He



won%26039;t let me decide what%26039;s for dinner, or what we%26039;re going to do durring the party. I



planned a Halloween party, and was so upset because he wouldn%26039;t let me do it my way! I



wanted to cook... he decided we should have it catered. I wanted to decorate the inside %26amp;



outside of the house... he decided the outside of the house was enough. I decided to serve a



punch for the kids... he wanted to serve pop. I wanted to buy a pumpkin for each kid to



carve... he said NO! I wanted to get treats for all the kids... he said NO! I wanted to make



or buy some cupcakes for the kids... he said NO! This whole project was supposed to be mine,



as was my Birthday party, and he seemed to either take over EVERYTHING, or complain, and



accuse me of being some kind of liar when he didn%26039;t get his way, or I thought I was plain %26amp;



clear about something(even though I knew with him it was all a catch 22!) and he decided I



didn%26039;t mean what I said, even though he just wasn%26039;t listening, or he wasn%26039;t clear himself.



It%26039;s really rediculous how either he has to do it, or I get rung through the ringer if I do



something my way, or the way I said I was going to if it wasn%26039;t his way!



7 Money... He doesn%26039;t want me to spend any, and thinks I have a spending problem, even



though I%26039;m only making sure the house is stocked with groceries! He thinks he can just go



buy himself and others tickets to a whole bunch of Sox games, but if I want to buy myself a



record player and some vintage vinyl albums, it%26039;s not okay! If he%26039;s planning the party,



there%26039;s no spending limit if it%26039;s his idea, but for my Birthday party, he wanted to be



frugal, and not allow me to do a wine tasting, and spend $200 on wine because he wanted to



stock the bar that he hadn%26039;t since the Halloween party, even though my guests were coming



for a wine tasting party! They weren%26039;t drinking hard liquor, and that was going to be $100



to restock! I told him what I was going to get wine wise, and he told me to restock the



liquor. I went, bought it all, then he complained at me for spending too much, even though I



know he would have spent the same if he went! Like... it%26039;s okay for him to do it, but not



okay for me to! The same thing happened on the same day with the groceries, and party foods!



Then he said that since I spent $600 on my birthday (which was really $200 on groceries,



$100 party snacks %26amp; food for 2 parties, $100 for hard liquor, and $200 for wine), that when



he got his tax return, he was going to spend it all on what ever he wanted, and I couldn%26039;t



spend a dime of it! That%26039;s kind of like him telling me all year that he was bringing in more



money to the house, even though he wasn%26039;t, plus, he refused to include the monthly child



support in my amount!



8 Rigidity and stubborness... Gosh, I could go on forever on this one, but I won%26039;t. This



applys to everything in our life together. My way is never bent toward, or a consideration.



Everything has to be his way, even if it%26039;s not the best thing, or right or fair in any way



shape or form.



9 Urge to perfect every little thing... Mostly, he wants to perfect me! This perfection,



however, is what he, himself has made of it, whether it is normal, or not!Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
Print out your list and if he will not agree to see someone, then you go. You cannot become someone%26039;s perfect. All of us have a bit of OCD in us (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), but this level of problems has to be interfering with his (and your) normal life which is enough criteria to base seeing a professional on. And look up more information besides on Wikopedia...sometimes the information there is right and sometimes its a bit off.



Dust in the Wind

PegDoes my boyfriend have OCPD?
He might also have:



Hypoactive Premature Animal Syndrome With Incontinence (HPASWI)

HPASWI involves extreme reluctance and low energy exacerbated by an unplanned, temporally-distorted physiological response when near animals or beasts, combined with an inability to control one%26039;s own bladder.





Medication-Induced Bipolar Aversion Dysfunction (MBAD)

MBAD is primarily characterized by drug-induced toxic side effects impacting physiology and neurology exacerbated by unpredictably extreme mood responses in the rejection of others.



Paranoid Disorganized Anxiety Dysfunction With Itching (PDADWI)

PDADWI is characterized by extreme fear of persecution compromised by a striking inability to locate objects or information that occurs during episodes of extreme mental or emotional stress, interrupted by severe tingling sensations on specific skin regions.



Transient Premature Deficit Disorder With Flatulence (TPDDWF)

TPDDWF is defined as intermittent, rapidly-changing episodes in conjunction with an unplanned, temporally-distorted physiological response that exists at sub-optimal levels, interrupted by intermittent explosions of methane gas from the anus.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
you question is way too long. No one is going to read all of that, unless someone has OCD.



I suffer from OCD.



Your BF does not.



Take my word for it. You are just being stubborn and unreasonable, and are totally incompatible with your BF.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
wow lisa, and your still with him?Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
I don%26039;t know if he has the disorder. But there%26039;s evidence that you might.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
The DSM is garbage. In 1950 they had less than 100 entries in there. How many are there now? Did mankind just now develop these problems? Sounds like you want to limit him or drug him. I%26039;d knock that off and let him be who he is. Psychiatry is bs so anyone who would suggest needs real data like www.cchr.org. Go there and watch the videos of the psychs saying they have no valid tests for mental illness or cures.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
If your boyfriend has OCPD, the symptoms:

1) Would find him nit-picking HIS activities, etc. and not yours.

2) Would find him tweaking things HE does, not you.

3) Would find him working late hours and neglecting you, not badgering you to work 24/7.

4) Would find him nearly incapable of telling social lies, keeping an extra nickel in change from a cashier, etc., not ramming his opinions down your throat.

5) You say he doesn%26039;t show this one.

6) Would find him unable to give you tasks to do because he has an exact way he wants them done, no exceptions and no fudge factor.

7) Would find him unable to buy the Sox tickets.

8) Would find him being the toughest on himself, not you.



I%26039;m speaking from my own OCPD.



He does not appear to have OCPD. Try looking up narcissistic behavior. And if he refuses to get relationship counseling with you, get counseling for yourself.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
Some people%26039;s answers I read are quite rude. And I am on your side. People have different cases of Down%26039;s Syndrome, so they can have symptoms of OCPD. I would reccomend seeing a psychologist about your boyfriend.Good Luck!Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
I am so sorry for you and your boyfriend. This is nothing to make fun of. My X Husband had OCD and it was just terrible the last 3 years of our marriage. I was not allowed to leave the House without him, he had to go with me to buy the grocerys, because he wanted certain items bought and had a fit if I did not buy the right ones. I could not move anything in the house, or he would pitch a fit. His clothes in his closet had to all be hung a certain way. He was a Workaholic with 64 employees but would not take his Vacation each year because he truly believed they would do something wrong if he was not there. He was very frugal with money, spending only what had to be spent to survive, yet believeing that we never could save enough. Our marriage lasted 27 years and when the kids were grown and gone, I left also. I just could not live the rest of my Life that way . He refused to take his Medicine the Doctor gave him, and in the end it had gotten so bad he chose the clothes I wore daily. Nope OCD and OCPD are nothing to laugh about, its terrible.Does my boyfriend have OCPD?
this is just who he is you can spend all the time and money in the world on therapy and things might change a little but not anything that is going to make a difference either you can deal with this the rest of your life or you cannot but decide now